Most of us have understood the subject upside down!
We have learned that if we do not like our job, we must change it. If we’re having trouble with our live partner we should breakup. If we are having trouble with our family we must turn our relations, sometimes its okay to change the job or the separation. But if we do not change our thinking at the same time, more or less the same conditions will be repeated for us.
We must first change ourselves.